Why do we all feel so comfortable weighing in our opinions on what IH coulda/shoulda/woulda done differently? Poor guy. None of us are or have been in his position. ... But while we are, I will weigh in mine :-) Look, none of us were there with them. I am sure when he was massaging her he could sense that she was not open to advances. If she was, I am sure he would have gone for it. Duh! She was most likely guarded in some way and he picked up on that. Why would he "go for it" and risk making things awkward or putting himself in the position to get rejected. IH, you did good, brother You knew it wasn't the right time.

I do agree that when someone tells us "we need to talk," it is not usually an indication they want more. Think about it, if she did, he would have sensed that on the date. And she would be throwing out signs left and right, flirting, and already trying to make plans. She is guarded again. This also is a unique sitch because they have such a long history. I am not surprised she is moving at such a snails pace. She knows that once she jumps (back into any R at all) she cannot hit rewind. She also knows that she could blow it and potentially lose this friendship. Now while she will lose it anyways (you don't want that), it's clear that this friendship is very important to her.

I trust that you will handle this well, even without the advice from all of us rookies! Lol.

Blu

“Forgiveness liberates the soul. It removes fear. That is why it is such a powerful weapon.” – Nelson Mandela