I almost feel like detachment is pushing him further away. I know from all the reading that this is not the case, but it sure feels like that today.
It is so hard. But 3-6 months of pursuit didn't do anything but push him further away. He couldn't talk to me without scowling when he finally left. He is kinder to me now. Your H sounds like he is being kinder to you too. But I get your point. By pretending that we are fine, are we giving them a free pass? Trust the process I guess.
Originally Posted by Grace21
really don't know how some of you folks do this for 6 months, or years. How can anyone recover a marriage after that long? How long do you wait for them to talk about the R? Does the LBS NEVER bring it up if we have hope for MR?
I'm a year post BD and 7 months since he moved out. Say a year from now I wake up and realise I have not thought about reconciling in months. In fact, I am happy with the woman i see in the mirror. Will i regret wasting those two years? No. Because I'll be [censored] if I don't come out of this hell better than when I went in.
