Work is a great opportunity to detach. Leave your problems at the door and get to work!
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She said we’re separated numerous times but did not drop the D bomb. I did say it was now a viable option. She fired back telling me that it’s going to be as painful as what we’re feeling now. I countered by saying that if it gives me a ticket to closing this awful chapter in my life I will do it. Her voice cracked when I said D. I needed to say it. I’m done being taken hostage to her actions.
To me, this shows that she isn't sure of divorce being what she wants. She cracked a little. Even though you were emotional, you told her you were strong enough to divorce to get to a better state. I think that statement shows a lot. And her reaction shows that she doesn't really want that either, or at least she hasn't decided yet. I think your strength, confidence, and lack of pursuit going forward will really be the difference in your situation. If you can detach emotionally from your W and just see the forest here, you can act in accordance with your values as a man instead of reacting to her childish actions. Do this even when it's hard.
Take back your power by detaching from her. Don't give her the security of plan B by pursuing and sharing your emotions with her. She wants that. But she doesn't want you, not really. So don't give her the pieces she wants without everything.
This is a purely emotional thing I'm going to say now and there is some offensive language...Ready?
I'm going make the bitch work for her s*it now. She wants out? I'll give it to her. I'm willing to lose damn near everything, if it means I get another chance at happiness. And she damn well knows that. I deserve happiness. And I deserve closure. I am going to take charge of it and I will make it happen for me. If she wants to admit her f*ckups and give us another go, the door is always open. But I'm through with her WAW ways. I'm done being patient.
