Still Lost pt3

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Update from the past weekend because I never know what I am going to get. Got a text on Friday afternoon that WW has been upset/crying all day. I just responded with "?", she said will talk when I get home....then another text "I just want to come home".

Ok so chill evening on the deck drinking and she has been dealing with continued work stress, colleague having pregnancy issues and just sold her wedding ring Friday after getting a replacement through an insurance claim. That seemed to be the big emotional issue that had her upset all day. I didn't ask why, I didn't ask anything about what she was feeling, just let her offer all of that. She said the newer ring was worth more, looked better, etc after having friends compare.

Later that evening we went out to grab some food and were playfully joking around. She broke out the new ring and put it on like she was doing some ceremony for me. I admit I have been very emotionless over all of this and asked why she would wear it. She said it was almost like another new start. I refrained from saying that there about 20 other things that need to happen outside of wearing a ring but she needs to figure that out on her own.

There were some strong emotions that came out Friday, she kept pushing the R talks and I made it very clear that there is no R right now, not if there is still an OM, I suggested a selfie with us, the ring, not just to social media but texted directly to OM and she would not do it......although she looked bewildered, not angry about the suggestion. I said there you go, now let's enjoy being out together and not talk about this right now.

We spent all day Sat together as well with some friends and had a good time. By Sat night she was done and there was a break down on the way home where she was crying, apologizing and again asking for help from me because she was hurting. I know she needs an IC and that has to be her decision. I feel like she is coming out of the fog a bit and right now I am just continuing to be the lighthouse. I am done with the spineless jellyfish role that wipes her nose when she needs it.

I know I am still a long way away but I feel a step in the right direction has been taken by her. I will stand my ground because she has to do all of the moving back from here on out.