You and I both know you are still in contact with OM. We can not actively work on our marriage when there is a third party involved.
End of story.
That's exactly what I was thinking. This would be a boundary I can enforce without leaving it up to her to "enforce" which I flubbed up over the weekend.
I think her response is going to be: "These joint sessions aren't for working on our marriage. They are for me to give me a "safe" place to share my thoughts and feelings in a way to try to figure out where we go from here."
While I believe this still falls under the 'working on our M' umbrella, I've learned over the past 4 weeks that whatever I think, she thinks the opposite. Oh well, I'm still going to move forward as you suggest.
Last edited by Wanted1; 10/22/1801:33 PM.
M: 34 W:34 D:7 D:6 S:3
M: 9.5 years T: 12
OM found & BD (by me): 9/19/18 IHS begins W informs me she's moving out: 11/28/18 W files: 12/21/18 D Final: 2/25/19
