It’s good to read your post to see the progress that you’ve made.
What techniques have you used to get to this stage of acceptance?
It’s 2 yrs since he left. My H & his AP have now moved away & I feel such anger (particularly towards her - having the life, love & future that I wanted from him). The divorce is going through & part of me wants to cling on to the familiar & part of me wants it all over because I want an end to this pain.
My H says he wants to remain friends - I don’t know if that’s true or because he is trying to be nice whilst we go through mediation. But it can’t be an open, honest friendship because I don’t want to hear about their new life. He is always very economical with the truth (maybe so as not to hurt me any more than he already has). I’d love to say that I could be pleased for him & his new happiness but I’m not that good a person.
Like you, I can’t see their 23 yr age gap relationship working long term but it seems to be working well for now. Either way, I don’t imagine he would ever come back.
How have you got to the stage where you don’t take it all personally?
M 1986 ILYBINILWY Jan 2016 Found out about affair May 2016. H 57yrs. OW 23 yrs younger. Separated Sept 2016
