Sorry you find yourself in the so familiar situation. Your letter was fine. She knows how you feel. No need to tell her any more.
Most people here take to long to do the right thing. You might be an exception.
Setting her free. Helping her move out. Let her feel what is like not to have you. The quicker YOU make things happen, the more chance of saving the R.
These are going to be the most counter-intuitive things you will ever do in your life.
Rule of thumb 28 years ~ 28 months of hard work on your part. And there are no guaranties.
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
