Thank you all for your input. I am very grateful. Ovrrnbw, I have re-read your post several times, I fear you are spot on. Eeks
How can I make her move out? How can I make her move out and leave our D13 here with me? How do I make sure D13 does not turn on me, if we are kicking mom out?

It all feels way to regular to me, except the love. So easy to play along ... It's like every other part of her brain is normal except this one, sheer determination, blinders.

I'm about to start rambling, so gonna divert my attention for a bit. Thank you all again for taking the time to read about me and my plight, Your comments make me feel less isolated,

NIbs

BD Date - 9/16/18
Me-47
Her -47
D24
D13
GD3
In house seperation