Thank you Ovrrnbw for your comments. I appreciate you taking the time and your input. These are the comments I was hoping for.
I have the master bedroom and have told her to move out. She has no intention of moving away from our daughter and that will be end of school year at best. She has no intentions of moving out, nor can I find any way to force her out.
Keep in mind, this is the mother of my children and the love of my life, until 1 month ago. While I know I Need to let go, I am having a real tough time getting tough, as i symphatise with her pain. Frekkn nice guy syndrome. Hah. I can see it as i reread it. Wow

So, can I force her out with no proof an affair? Or at all?
Would that be best for D13?
What if A starts after in house seperation? Does it matter, or part of the healing proces? Wtf

NIbs

BD Date - 9/16/18
Me-47
Her -47
D24
D13
GD3
In house seperation