NIBS - Sorry you find yourself here. Give yourself a break for making mistakes. We all have, but hopefully we learn from them and move on.
GAL is not easy in the beginning, but necessary. Take small steps. Think about what you enjoy, then just DO it. Meetup.org is great. They have meet ups for just anything you can think of. I do that, rediscovered my faith, and reached out to old friends that I let go by the wayside while trying to keep the marriage together. Since H moved out 3 weeks ago, I have had activities every day. They just didn't fall in my lap. I aggressively searched them out. You can do that too. Consistency is the key. GAL is NOT about seeking out a new relationship. We need to set ourselves up to be happy in our own right whether or not reconciliation happens.
This is a great place to learn, but also a great place to just journal your thoughts. Good luck on your journey.
