When he arrived, he commented how tidy the house was. Better than it ever looks. Adding that he guessed he must be the messy one. I just said I like to keep on top of it. All you veteran's out there can correct me if I'm wrong, but I guess all these little things add up to something. What, I'm not sure. But I think it shows that they notice things, and hopefully all they notice are the things they miss in a relationship. Even sharing a tidy home. I tried looking cute today. He didn't say anything but maybe he noticed that too!
All in all it went o.k. I did all the driving. He didn't even offer. I guess that's fine since I was going with or without him. No word of our separation came up with the kids. Pleasant lunch together with them. Not much talking in the car except for occasional chit chat. He stayed on his phone the whole time, as usual. Again, no wedding ring on. I had mine on. I want to say "I see you are not wearing your wedding ring. Does this mean you are done and just dragging out the inevitable, you just don't feel married, or are you trying to make people think you are not married so you have a chance of meeting someone and leave the possibility open to stay married. "
Of course I won't. Doesn't really matter, does it? Won't change a thing with regards to me and our R, and only potentially (probably) piss him off because I put him on the spot. Part of me really wants to do that, though. I almost feel like detachment is pushing him further away. I know from all the reading that this is not the case, but it sure feels like that today.
I'm only 3 weeks separated, and it feels a lot longer. I really don't know how some of you folks do this for 6 months, or years. How can anyone recover a marriage after that long? How long do you wait for them to talk about the R? Does the LBS NEVER bring it up if we have hope for MR?
These are the questions swirling in my mind today.......Back to GAL!!
