yeah, it doesn't matter that she flat out refused. What does the law say? Maybe you should read about Nice Guy Syndrome. You can't nice her back. You have a say in how this goes. She will not respect someone with a noodle for a backbone. This isn't to say you should refuse everything, in a nasty way. Be polite, but stand up for your rights, and what you want.
"You want this divorce, not me, but there's nothing I can do to stop you. I think we can make this marriage work. Divorcing has consequences, and one of them is that we share 50/50 custody of the kids."
Right now, she's living this fantasy where everything goes her way. Part of your job is to help her realize she can't have her cake and eat it too.
M:23 T:26 Me:53, Wife: 60 S:18 D:16 filed 7/16 W moved out 4/28/17
