Hi DejaVu - i responded on your thread re setting up arrangements for H and the kids. He cannot continue to shirk his responsibilities. You need time for you. It does not mean you don't want to work on the M. It does not mean you don't love your kids. But working the double shift (work and children on your own) is going to leave you exhausted, cranky and irrational. I insisted H had a place for the children when he moved out. Yes, and those same thoughts, that I was encouraging the arrangement to become permanent, crossed my mind.
It wasn't just the phone thing. I was super friendly with MIL and FIL and then dismissive of him. This is how he use to be at the start. He would be charming to everyone else, and then would either ignore or give me one word answers. He wouldn't look me in the eye. He would turn his back to me. He would hug everyone else hello/goodbye, and not me. It made me feel like [censored] and I feel bad that I did it to him.
He did say a couple of things to get my back up.
- He has three weeks off work towards the end of the month and is going to take a week of it to visit his friend in Dubai (male, also recently divorced). - He suggested that all my GAL'g activities are taking time away from the children - In talking about a couple friend of ours who have recently separated 'they are never getting back together. No-one gets back together".
Originally Posted by DejaVu6
Ugh... did your friends tell you about the sighting? People try to be helpful but man, that is information I would not want someone to tell me about. So sorry that was passed onto you.
Nope - not helpful at all. He is picking me up in an hour to take me to watch D12's football match. He was with me yesterday. He was working (or so he says) most of last week but he spent most of two weeks (incl. weekends) with me. I know I am not supposed to waste my time on thinking about her, but I honestly cannot fathom how any woman could want to be with a man who is constantly with his (E)W and kids. Is she just a once a week booty call. She lives at least an hour away and that's a long way to travel. She's either very into him or she has extremely low self esteem.
