Unsure what's next, what to do.....

[Wanted1]

W,

The first thing you have to do is stop shooting yourself in the foot.

Again are you willing to move out (which we don’t recommend) or file for divorce? Is she still sleeping in the marital bed?

You are shooting from the hip right now and making matters worse.

I am giving you my opinion. She is not working on the marriage right now. She is just feeding you a line of bs until she figures out what’s going on with this om.

Best thing you can do right now is work on yourself and take care of your kids. Eventually you will figure out if she is in or out. The more you pressure her or give out ultimatums you can’t backup. The quicker she will seek a divorce. You have absolutely no control over her at all. Wedding vows mean nothing to her right now.

No, I’m not willing to move out. If we D I get the house. I’m not going to file for D either because I am clearly not ready and I’m against it.

She is not in the marital bed. Hasn’t been for a month.

I’m going to move to the LRT. I have to I think.