Just an update....last night my h and I went out with my sister and another guy for dinner and drinks, had a nice time but I got a bit upset because my S ended up really connecting with the man who was out with us and they both ended up kissing and leaving together to his hotel room. I was happy for her but it made me sad that my H and I had once a lot of passion towards each other and now we are in this crappy place. Also it didnt help that my H kept joking that my S was “going to get laid”. I thought it was a bit thoughtless considering we havent had sex in a few months and that he told me a month ago he wasnt attracted to me. I told him in the cab ride back home that seeing my S and this guy together made me sad for where we were in our M. H didnt say much. Went home got in bed and we snuggled and we started kissing and it was very sweet and I could tell he was into it, long story short we finally after 2 months made love. It was kind of a surreal experience but I was so happy and afterwards he was really affectionate the rest of the night...lots of spooning. He left this am for a business trip overnight. I am feeling hopeful and felt like this was a breakthrough. Not sure what some of you might think, or think I made a mistake “giving in”. But we still live together and are in MC, and still go out on dates etc. so our situation is different from a WAH or being separated etc. If anyone has any thoughts on going forward please let me know. Thank you!
