Unsure what's next, what to do.....

[Rose888]

Never set a boundary you can't enforce. It makes you look weak.

In most places in the Western world (I haven't followed your thread closely enough to know where you are), you can't *make* a spouse move out of the marital home.

Now, if you say, "I won't live in the same house as you while you are talking to OM, and if you don't move out by X date, I will" then *that's* a boundary you can enforce. That's about you and is completely in your control.

Whether it's a smart move, is another thing, but it is at least a boundary.

What you've done is leave the enforcement of the boundary up to her. If she doesn't move out, what will you do next?