Newbie who is a mess

[Rose888]

It sounds like a good therapy session.

I know you want your husband to see that he had a role in the marriage getting to where it is now, but I caution you to keep the focus on your side of the street.

Maybe it's just me, but when I start focusing on what I want other people to do, it often starts me on a path of not wanting to change unless the other person changes too, and that's not a good path.