Wife is not who I married ... Pt6 pls help!

[LoneWlf]

Thank you all for your valued opinions- will try and explain my actions and thoughts the best I can

W says "are you gonna show off again by running down the stairs?". With a big grin I said jokingly ,"I can appreciate that you are getting old but it is too bad you can no longer keep up with this guy!" and off I went.

My thought here was to indicate to her that I am moving forward no matter what- even if I have to leave her behind

I went dressed in new clothes - nice haircut -upbeat and positive. W came in dressed in her everyday frumpy clothes.

I used to work in a warehouse- and now since I've lost close to 60 lbs I need new clothes. I work in an office now and had to dress accordingly. I honestly put on some new nice clothes for work but also to look good to W it also feels good to be nicely presentable. When I leave the house now I try to dress decently. Before it was track pants and t shirts (another one of mt 180s) I feel as if W just puts on old unattractive attire with a boyish haircut - with her grey hair with no style done. This makes me feel she let herself go.

While speaking with all Ss teachers W asks each teacher to keep an eye on S for any odd behavior because we are separated. She mentions it almost like she flaunting it as a badge of some accomplishment.

Here I feel she could of easily presented it as- Has S been acting out of sorts or even odd at times? I would tend to leave it at that. If the teachers say yes -S is being belligerant or withdrawn or something out of the ordinary then I feel it would be necessary to bring up the separation. Otherwise just let it be.

I can say that my intent was simply to look nice and presentable act upbeat and positive and portray someone that is content and moving forward. My intent was not to belittle or to present myself holier than thou. I appreciate the 2X4s and may need to refine my approach for the next interactions. Thank you all for your honest opinions.