Thanks for your perspective, DnJ. I guess by my wife saying she is working on the divorce decree but has not specific timeline, I feel like this is a death by 1000 cuts. Now she asks me to change my mailing address, which is fine, but seems more and more as if she is moving on. Fine, I say to myself, then finalize the divorce. Instead it is this ask but then not having a timeline. I am certainly much better now with detachment and have been able to really focus on other things, but her timeline does not help well with 4 kids; 2 of which are too young to understand, and 2 of which have been through this before, and I think are beginning to wonder why their stepmum is not around anymore. This will really be evident when all the kids and me are together for Christmas, and she is not there. I do not even know what excuse I can make for them then, and I really dont need my ex wife from previous marriage to cause more harm when she hears of this... I will try to take this as it comes, but I feel I deserve to know from her when she wants this divorce done. This is completely selfish on her part and I continue to remain in limbo!
