And as for separations, can't say I'm a huge fan but one of AS's comments made me realize that it probably beats the alternative. Once I accepted it for what it was, it started paying off. Time will tell.
I am still a fan of not leaving the marital home and moving back into the master bed room. This is for the "Nice Guys". 95% of us here. We give the OPTION to the spouse:
"You are free to sleep where ever you like. I decided I like the master bedroom and will be sleeping here"
The "Bad Boys" need to change different behaviors. They are already assertive. They are already dominate. They need to learn not to physically control their spouse.
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
