OneArt - I feel what you're saying. I don't miss or want my ex at all and avoid communicating with him as much as possible. But I still feel the obligation of my vows enough that I would help him if he was in dire need.
I remember a mom at my kids' grade school. She was divorced but her ex-husband got cancer and she cared for him in her home in his last days. I didn't know her well enough to know the whole story, but got the feeling she did it for her kids, not because of some reconciliation. I don't know how their divorce came about either. But I'd like to think I would do that for my kids' sake if it ever came to that. (And yes, I know darn well my ex would nEVER do anything of the sort for me.)
