I think that during DB they also may reframe because they don't want to send the message that things are Okay. Either out of compassion for the feelings (once they are capable of compassion) of the LBS or simply because it is a powerful holdback.
I think you mean "refrain" and yes, I think a lot of that is because they "don't want to send the wrong message." And sure we can all sit here and say "I can still have sex with her and know that it doesn't mean anything" but the reality is we're usually trying to hang on to them by doing that.
