LW, it sounds like something about your post struck Rose odd, and I have to admit it does me too. These quotes in particular:
Originally Posted by LoneWlf
I went dressed in new clothes - nice haircut -upbeat and positive. W came in dressed in her everyday frumpy clothes.
It's great that you showed up looking your best. But it's a school event so it's hardly a surprise she showed up in casual wear. There's this odd "holier than thou" vibe about how you said that. Or maybe a "I'm convincing myself I don't need her" vibe. Not sure what it is but it sounds a little off.
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W says "are you gonna show off again by running down the stairs?". With a big grin I said jokingly ,"I can appreciate that you are getting old but it is too bad you can no longer keep up with this guy!" and off I went.
There it is again. First of all the "getting old" comment is passive/aggressive, the very thing warned against in NMMNG. Hiding behind a joking manner. Sarcasm. Then that same "holier than thou" thing with running down the stairs. I fully expect you to say "oh I was just kidding and she knew it" which is EXACTLY what a NG would say to something like that. So think about that, what was your motivation, why did you do it, how do you think it made W feel. We're not trying to beat you up, we're just here to listen to you, point things out, help you tweak your approach.
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While speaking with all Ss teachers W asks each teacher to keep an eye on S for any odd behavior because we are separated. She mentions it almost like she flaunting it as a badge of some accomplishment.
You don't really know why she said it, and it's best not to expend too much energy trying to figure it out. Believe nothing they say and only half of what they do.
Anyway I think you're on the right track, I just think you're still spending too much time trying to impress her or figure out what she's thinking. Do stuff for you and let the chips fall where they may.
