After some consideration, I have considered that Ws don't only reframe from sex because we disgust them. Although at the height of waywardness we certainly do.

I think that during DB they also may reframe because they don't want to send the message that things are Okay. Either out of compassion for the feelings (once they are capable of compassion) of the LBS or simply because it is a powerful holdback.

What do you think?


M 53 W 54, M since 98
D15, D19
8/2013 discovered EA, W maintained contact with OM
until 10/14
7/2/17 W said she wanted S, 7/25/17 moved out of MBR
12/17 W says moving out 5/18, W still in home.