Getting Back to my Old Self

[Dawn70]

Dawn,

It doesn't really matter but I just want to clarify two things:

1. He doesn't teach ghosting people. J9 was wrong and admitted so in this thread.
2. He is not a player. Now if you use his teachings to be a player that's on you. His website is called Understanding Realtionships.

The point really is before being critical people should take the time to actually do some research first.

You are absolutely right on both accounts. It doesn't matter and people should do research before being critical. I did see where J9 admitted being wrong about what he said but if I hadn't happened to see it and was just left with the impression that ghosting is good is part of this person's message, then that would leave a bad taste in my mouth about said person's teachings. I didn't say the guy was a player. In fact, I said he may be the best thing since sliced bread. Don't know, haven't listened/watched. What I DID say was maybe Don doesn't want to take dating advice from a player and that is a total assumption ON MY PART based on what I read of Don's responses about this guy. He may not think that at all and I spoke out of turn. If so, I apologize to you and Don both for assuming and making statements based on my own assumptions.

My whole point was that we have to take the advice that works from us from the sources that work for us. If this person gives advice that works for you and J9 and whoever else it works for, that is awesome! I'm glad that you found advice that works for you. We are ALL different and we see things and react to things differently. We are also "talking" via text conversations and as I have stated time and again, there is absolutely NO context behind this written word, so you don't know if I'm being hateful, condescending, supportive, nice, whatever. I can disagree with someone and still "hear" their opinion and even respect it. If you all get something out of this guy's advice, I'm glad for you. I'm sure I could site sources that I appreciate advice from that other posters on this forum might well think are just crazier than a bag of hammers and that is fine. We all are entitled to our own opinions and we all receive/perceive information differently.