Still Moving (Saying ILY Pt 7)

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Got a temporary custody order where WW can have the kids from Friday at 3 PM to Sunday at 6 PM every other weekend. All other parenting time goes to me. She agreed to it without a fight, but I'm not sure what to think about that. I hope this will just be the way it ends up, but I have a feeling she will go back to wanting 50/50 when we go to court. Tonight will be the first time she has had them overnight since this whole debacle started back in January. Funny thing is, it was supposed to start last weekend, but "something came up" (something better came up) and she couldn't have them. Anyway, I'm hoping the fact she agreed to this setup sets the precedent for the future...

I also got an email from her lawyer asking if she could have the kids on Halloween to go trick or treating because "Halloween really isn't his thing and I want to make sure the kids don't miss out on trick or treating". I told them I had already purchased the kids' costumes and planned on taking them. The way I see it, she just wants them for the photo op. "Look at me, social media! I'm taking my kids trick or treating! I'm such a good mom! Look at me!"...

The D is moving very slowly. My L said I would have to go to mediation before the court would make a decision, so we still have to do that. I'm just ready for this to all be over so I can continue moving on with my life. I'm the happiest I've been in years, and just want to get this over with and put it behind me...

Still GAL like it's no one's business. Going to Chicago next weekend to see my favorite band for 3 nights. Will be a nice little mini vacation. Kids are doing really well. They have adjusted well. Straight A's on the report cards and no more discipline issues at school...

I do fear that W coming back around may throw a wrench into things. Everything has been great with her not being around. She hasn't seen or talked to them in 7 and a half weeks. Tonight will be the first time. I guess I'm just afraid it's going to mess with them. I know she's going to feed them a bunch of BS, because she has in the past. Making excuses for why she hasn't been around and blaming it on me. Not sure if I mentioned it in previous posts, but several months ago, she told the kids that I wouldn't let her see them and showed them her phone with all the attempted phone calls that I did not answer. Partial truth. She is right, I do not answer her calls, because I have specifically told her if she need anything she needed to text me. That she could see the kids whenever she wanted to , but she needed to text me and be specific. She doesn't like that because it makes it difficult to gaslight when you have texts as proof of what was said. Instead, she would just blow up my phone with constant calls that I wouldn't answer until she would finally text and say she wanted to talk about the kids. I always responded to those texts. Anyway, the kids were upset with me saying that she said I wouldn't let them see her. I told them that was not the case. My daughter responded, "Yes it is. She showed us her phone. You won't answer the phone when she calls". Totally inappropriate in my opinion, A 3, 8, and 9 year old don't need to be brought into it so she can feel better about herself by making me look bad...

Anyway, things are going well and we'll see if she shows up this afternoon to get them. And we'll see how long she keeps coming to get them. Time will tell, I guess. Good luck out there DB'ers! Hope you're all doing well and making progress...