DonH, I have always been honest with you, and I plan on continuing to do so, and I hope you don't get offended.
But you sound like you want your cake and you want to eat it too. You want an R only on your terms, where you only get the fun stuff and none of the real stuff. You just want the good parts of someone, but not all of them. Is that really fair, or even feasible? I mean it sounds all nice on paper, but reality does not work that way. What are you willing to give to make the stuff you want happen?
And no, we wouldn't be a match. But no, I don't want to get married again, and having an R isn't one of the most important things in my life. You are way off base on that. What is important to me, is that when I am in an R, is that a person can take all of me, and not just the pieces that they see fit. I lived in a marriage like that, subsequent R's like that and it is an awful feeling. But I do think our age makes a difference perhaps in what we want, and the fact I have a young child. I do desire a life partner, whether we marry or not, someone who takes the good, bad and ugly and not only the parts they want. That is a true life partner. And you are correct, I desire it. But I think you need ot truly look at the reality. I am not intentionally trying to speak for Dawn or KML, but yes, they are comfortable alone (I am too, just don't want toe alone for the rest of my life) but these are strong women who value themselves and I think they want to also be someone who doesn't just chose the easy and fun parts of an R, and understand that to get the fun person to go on cruises, have good dates, good sex, and to have their partners show consistency, there will be work and commitment to do so.
Don, you have a lot to offer a partner. And there is a woman who has a lot to offer you out there. But do fully capitalize on that and get the most out of that, you might have to get out of your perfect scenario comfort zone.
