I don't know how other LBS do it because right now I'm at my wits end.
Time and practice....resisting the urge to ask questions about mood, just greeting cordially even if you get nothing, or something nasty, in return. GAL he's a lot too. When are are fulfilling ourselves for ourselves, we car less and less about our unhappy spouses' moods. Luckily mine isn't intentionally nasty, but I practice all of these things anyway so as not to find myself easing into questions about what he's doing while we are separated or R talk.
