Went today to my first therapy session with my husband, it was kind of mixed bag. My H said to the therapist he and I dont talk and no matter what comes of our sessions or our marriage for that matter, we need to try to figure things our one way or another. I liked the therapist, he said the divorce rate for parents of special needs kids is very high and that even if we are a team when it comes to helping my son( which we have been and im proud of that) the R gets thrown to the wayside. It was validating for me because I think my H doesnt realize that the problems in our marriage are not all my fault. We just touched on the surface of things but manage to speak civil to each other. The therapist suggested that the way we are communicating or not is keeping us from getting our needs met...not a shocker, but I think if we can stick with the therapy that it could be healing, and maybe we can move on from the distance and get closer.
My H said he was going into C with an open heart and an open mind and I know he loves me but I also know he is skeptical and seems to think we are 2 totally different people with different interests. I’m hoping he comes to see that we both played a part in where things are now, that he will be honest and admit it, but even after that will he still want to stay married. We made a standing appt to see the C every Thursday and I am afraid but hopeful.
It wasnt a perfect session, and it still hurts to know that my husband isnt ILWM, im trying to hang in there and stay positive and GAL. Just wanted to give an update. My sister is here so it is a good distraction.
