Edit: great opportunity to "grok" an aspect of what detachment is. It's when you take that entire paragraph of what she said during MC or joint counseling or whatever it was...and not let it bother you at all. It shouldn't affect your understanding of reality. It shouldn't make you angry or sad or anything. R2C will jump in and translate for you: "Blah blah blah blah blah."
The F'd up thing about this is that at the time and on the hour long car ride home, it didn't. I know I portrayed to her that it didn't because it honestly didn't really affect me in any sort of way, at that time. It wasn't until I was back home and digested it the next day that it started to bug me....and I get that both of us are giving "our sides" of the story and therefore the truth probably lies in the middle. And that middle ground clearly puts blame on me for where we are. Something I understand and wished I would have understood a long time ago.
Appreciate the advice and comments, burned.
Last edited by Wanted1; 10/18/1808:24 PM.
M: 34 W:34 D:7 D:6 S:3
M: 9.5 years T: 12
OM found & BD (by me): 9/19/18 IHS begins W informs me she's moving out: 11/28/18 W files: 12/21/18 D Final: 2/25/19
