Regarding the rest of your post.... Maybe I misinterpreted what I mean or very possibly misunderstood the DBing techniques. So, are you saying that I'm not really ignoring the DBing techniques if I instigate conversations with her about things other than our R and M? For example, asking how her meeting went and actually being interested in how it went, etc. Or, saying 'Good Night' to her. Or, complimenting her on an outfit, her hair or anything else?
Remember, exterior validation is something that she "craves," for lack of a better term. Maybe that's too harsh, I don't know. But at this point, I feel as though I'm exterior with the situation we are in, and those are things I probably didn't do enough in the past so by instilling those into my changes moving forward, that would essentially be a 180 for me. 2 birds, 1 stone type of a thing -- playing into her need for validation as well as showing her a change in me.
M: 34 W:34 D:7 D:6 S:3
M: 9.5 years T: 12
OM found & BD (by me): 9/19/18 IHS begins W informs me she's moving out: 11/28/18 W files: 12/21/18 D Final: 2/25/19
