I will say that not initiating sex for several months has gone a long way with W.
She had said that she thought I only wanted her for sex. Not true. But it was her belief.
Spending time, listening and validating and removing the pressure that I might suggest it when opportunities arise have seemed to have had a very positive effect.
Yep, this is true. My W also has gone through periods where, because of the messages I've sent her, she thinks all I want from her is sex. 180ing coupled with not initiating can erase that illusion.
Of course the main reason for not initiating is because it reminds them that you disgust them. Never a good thing if R is your goal.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
