H"This is not working for me either. Share with me your plan IN WRITING on how we solve this. I will review it and get back to you when I have made a decision"
Originally Posted by RyanHun
I don't see how nesting could possibly work in our situation
Ask wife to draw out her plan and email it to you for your review.,
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based on how W is when it comes to housework
Time for her to put on her big girl pants.
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and finances, we can't afford a second place,
Ask her to draw up a budget so you can see how she thinks this will look financially.
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But it seems she doesn't want to hear any of this or actually do some research on any of the above situations.
Perfect. Do not do any work toward this. Let her do the work.
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Everything currently is just made off of knee jerk reactions without looking at the big picture or the inner workings of any of the options in front of us.
Always respond with "I will review this. I will let you know what I have decided.
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Currently we have been living in the same house, in separate bed rooms
Are you sleeping in the nicest room?
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raising the kids and things were going well so
The truth? Your opinion?
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I'm not sure why the sudden urgency to start proceeding in the first place.
I would bet OP.
Originally Posted by RyanHun
This morning she called
Why did you answer?
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and wants to discuss living arrangements
Why did you continue?
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and expenses moving forward.
"I am busy. We can talk later"
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First off financially it would be hard.
Logic does not work. Divorce is financially devastating for all involved.
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Second we would essentially be living out of a suitcase for the foreseeable future.
Her choice let her feel how this skucs.
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Then there are all the other issues, she is a very messy person so now I would have two places to try and keep clean myself.
180 Do not clean up her mess. Set a boundary. Enforce the boundary. Do this with the kids as well. "Anything I have to pickup on trash day is doing into the trash." is the mindset.
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She is terrible with money management
Her problem. Separate as much as possible.
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What do we do about groceries and food etc.
Aks her for her plan
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This seems like a bad way to live
It is.
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and I'm not so sure it really would be better for the kids.
None of this is good for the kids. Wife is in selfish mode. You are the one standing up for the family.
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I am wondering if any of you guys have first hand experience with this kind of living arrangement and what everyone's thoughts are?
Don't Do it.
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
