A new mindset for Burned. This is thread 7.

[burned]

Maintaining my new mindset. Setting teeny, tiny goals and accomplishing them, for the most part. GAL last night was dinner with my sister and her H who flew in from out of town. GAL tomorrow is board game night. Might play a game called Munchkin, which I was told I need to try.

But "not cooperating" is not really going to make anything worse. Following the program, following the "rules"....those are designed to avoid making things worse.

I reviewed the rules, and found that since Saturday I have only been in violation of 14, 31, and 32. I think what I meant here was that I don't think things can get a whole lot worse than they are.

The thermostat saga continues today. WW and I hadn't talked about it in a week. The last time we talked about it she said she would use the shared account to pay for someone to fix them. I said that's fine with me and left it at that. (In between then and now was the "money fight" saga.) So since Saturday, dead silence from her until she texted me today to tell me that she had new thermostats installed (i.e., didn't fix the new ones because she couldn't, didn't reinstall the old ones as I recommended). She told me how much it cost and asked me what to do with the "old" ones (the new ones that I wasn't able to install before S). I said the cost was fine, and she can donate the old ones or recycle them.

So, in the name of shedding light on the WW mentality, not mind-reading: WTH?! I see pretty much no reason to send me the text, since I gave the impression that I don't care what she does with the thermostats or the money. No need to tell me exactly what happened or how much it cost. She hasn't communicated with me about anything else whatsoever. It feels like she's needling me, baiting me, or trying to make me feel guilty, or all of the above.

I was warned that my interactions with her would get worse after I went dark. That's what I think this is. When they do this kind of thing, what are they trying to accomplish? I'm asking only because I tend to be very naive about interpersonal interactions, and this is a useful arena for learning how to look at things more carefully.

No idea what to make of it but it doesn't matter. Just wondering if there's something to be learned from this, besides the futility of focusing on her.