Gaining speed (pain18 DB story, Part V)

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GAL seems so difficult at first, but baby steps, just stay busy. I felt this before too and said wow I will have to change my entire lifestyle at 49 after spending 19 years with the same person...very overwhelming and a lot of anxiety. My advice is just stay busy at first.

Read, exercise, look at other sitches here and see what they are doing, walk a mall, window shop, pick up a PT job to meet new people, go to a support group, talk to an IC, hang out with friends. Those aren't new things, those are things that you have probably done all your life but just became complacent with them the past few years....we all did, that is why we are here.

We all felt like we had to keep up with WAW or WW and the dating or sex, good luck, women will always be able to get what they want when they want it because that is the way it was set up in the beginning. Adam didn't want the apple, Eve talked him into it, guys are one track when you think about it. If you try to chase a relationship, sex, love, you will be disappointed most of the time and continue the cycle. It will happen, but you won't ever be satisfied until you can look at yourself and say I will be ok with or w/o her and I have a lot to offer. You need that confidence, work on yourself.