Well rough night last night and so far rough morning today and am looking for some external opinions on stuff. One thing that has been very clear this last month since W announced her plans for a separation is that she had no real idea or plan in place as to what that would look like or the reality of the situation. Last night when I got home from the gym she was in attack mode. I did slip up a few times but for the most part maintained my new found skills and didn't really get into it and stuck to my boundries. This morning she called and wants to discuss living arrangements and expenses moving forward. It quickly became apparent though that this wasn't going to be a discussion rather more of a this is how things are going to be. Now most of the items I am not Ok with and will not likely agree to. One issue though I am really torn because it involves the kids. WAW's plan is what they call a nesting arrangement. Basically we keep the house, get a secondary residence of some sort and alternate back and forth. Would this really be better for the kids? Perhaps. But this sounds like a terrible arrangement for myself and the W. First off financially it would be hard. Second we would essentially be living out of a suitcase for the foreseeable future. Then there are all the other issues, she is a very messy person so now I would have two places to try and keep clean myself. She is terrible with money management so there is that massive problem hanging over my head. What do we do about groceries and food etc. This seems like a bad way to live and I'm not so sure it really would be better for the kids. I am wondering if any of you guys have first hand experience with this kind of living arrangement and what everyone's thoughts are?
