I could be off base here and making stereotypical statements but here goes..
Most women (not all) are "clingy" when they really like a guy. The fact that WG is not clingy does not necessarily make her this super cool, independent female. ( She kind of sounds like a mess) i think there is the possibility that shes just not that into you. (Which we all know is not a reflection of you ) i think it could be something as superficial as age. Im talking purely from intuition and because i have a lot of honest and morally questionable female aquaintances/friends
A lot of guys really like the girl thats not into them. Archie had a hot blond chasing after him, but worshipped veronica (no i dont watch riverdale. I loved the comics) . Maybe the girl acts more natural around them, or is herself more. Or does not care much about the outcome. Makes less demands cause she is not taking them seriously.
Do you want to be taken seriously? Meaning as a serious consideration to be a life long partner to another person?
I dont know your background story on DB. Was your ex wife wayward or a walkaway? Are you at peace with the way things ended? Do you feel guilt? Have you come to terms with that guilt? Have you made amends?
My ex kept his addiction a secret from me. The way he treated me was cruel and his behaviors did serious damage to me and my son. Like focus, I have tons of stories. I dont knownifbhe understand or is capable of ever understanding just how painful his actions were. I always wonder if he will one day truly recognize this and regret it. An apology, acknowledgement would mean so much. The difference between addiction and cancer is that addiction comes with gaslighting. His gaslighting makes it hard for me to even know what actions were due to his addiction.
Again. I dont know your back ground. But could remnants of your role in your marriage, your addiction be part of why you are going for women that are not taking you seriously? Do you feel worthy of being in a relationship with someone capable of loving you?
