kml, yes it would be a benefit to get it done this year because I am at a much lower tax rate. The problem of course is that he will not cooperate, even in his own divorce filing. We are almost six months in and literally nothing has been done (other than me getting the case sent to the correct court--but that only took 1 week from my side). My attorney has reached out to his. No dice. I have reached out to him. No dice. (Remember this is the guy who had an auto accident a couple of weeks ago and won't respond to the insurance company so they can look at his car and process the claim, so that too is stalled).
He claimed when I contacted him in May that he wants to wrap this up quickly in a "reasonable" settlement (read whatever it is that he wants that he is keeping a state secret), but he will not tell me what he wants, won't schedule mediation, has served no discovery, there are no temporary orders (only an automatic stay for financial restraint that gets entered in every case).
I am baffled as usual. When you keep telling someone you want a divorce, actually file it (2 years later), have a huge tax change looming, have a spouse who says great lets get this wrapped up quickly and save time and money, and do nothing, you have people scratching their heads. Remember, I can't just present him with a proposed agreement--I did that two years ago and never got one single edit or requested change.
I really think I need to find a voodoo priestess to put a spell on him. I was hoping OW2 was going to do my dirty work in moving him along, but he seems to be stalling her too. Continuously getting his online dating profiles in my email (directed to my fake account) doesn't instill a lot of confidence in me that he is lurved up and this is going to get resolved any time soon. He is the anti HaWho's-H, who has been pushing that divorce.
Oy vey. Enough whining. Suffice it to say, I'll be in limbo for the rest of my life.
