She makes sense, so id be pleased with that. You have time to work on yourself, validate her feelings when the situation calls for it, and to set goals for yourself. Use your time wisely.
Very good advice. Thank you. I feel like I’ve been given the GIFT of time instead of previously where the time was killing me. I’ve come to appreciate it.
Not sure if my sitch is different since the BD was technically from me after I found the most recent affair. However, since then she’s given me NO indications that she’s willing to work on our M. In fact, pretty much the opposite. Especially on Monday when the therapist asked if my W was thinking about trying to work on it and her response was “I don’t see the point”. Even with that, I feel like my best route moving forward is giving her her time and space, not go to her with my feelings and continue to obviously show her that I’m working hard at becoming a better version of myself.
I presume everyone agrees with that?
M: 34 W:34 D:7 D:6 S:3
M: 9.5 years T: 12
OM found & BD (by me): 9/19/18 IHS begins W informs me she's moving out: 11/28/18 W files: 12/21/18 D Final: 2/25/19
