I may have screwed up, but there was no angry/negative reaction from W. Here is what happened:
- Asked if I can stay the night at our house (I'm out usually M, T, W) since I will have to drive past our house to stay at a place while I"m out, she says that she is having friends over and that she prefers not to. She did offer to cancel and I told her not to and that I will figure something out.
At this point, my emotional neediness got the best of me and I asked her a hypothetical question. I asked her if she was having friends over and I forgot to pick something up I can come by and grab it, whether she has friends over or not, or would I need to inform her. She flipped the question to me and asked me how I would feel. I answered that I would not mind at all. I then went further that I would talk to her if I had a date coming over. She asked if I actually needed something from the house or if it was a hypothetical question. I answered that it was a hypothetical question and told her that I was taken off balance by her asking me to not show up tonight. Told her that I respected her boundaries and that I have a backup plan tonight.
I hate to beg, but I would really like some input here. I feel like the last few days I have been getting the advice of "be patient", which is helpful and I'm still employing, but as you can tell, I am starting to get desperate.
Please help.
Edit: I know that I cannot and should not trust her with who she has over. As painful as that is for me to think that others may be involved, there is nothing I can do about her thinking.
I'm just begging for relief from this pain at this point.
