Getting Back to my Old Self

[DonH]

I wouldn't mention the cruise until one of two things happen:
1. You have to know she isn't going so you can notify promoter (even if you don't have a replacement)
2. You want to replace her with someone else regardless of if she wants to go or not

Coconut, #1 is here and has been for a couple of months. We both have non-refundable, non-changeable flights. The cruise itself I think is less of a concern and I could put a different name on the cabin without too much trouble. This cruise is bigger than even I thought it would be. They are nearly sold out of the 300 cabins for the group. I've ran group cruises and I will tell you 300 cabins and nearly 700 people is HUGE. It's like 25% of the ship is this group. It's the biggest one they have ever done - likely because it has the largest number (and I'd say best) bands and musicians. So I'm not even sure what answer I'll get back if I request changes nor the cost that may be involved. They may be nice as heck, friendly, and have no problem with it. Or they might be ticked off at me to the point I'm seen as high maintenance and not worth a repeat. Or anything between the two.

#2 is a larger fear - at least recently. I thought that was where this might be going - that I'd say "see, everything happens for a reason, Wild Girl wants to back out, but look, I found someone even better to go with me!" Now, I'm not so sure. I'm starting to fear I might find someone better and then have a real dilemma on my hands. Remember, she's NOT ONCE even hinted at pulling out. That's not true of some previous dates where she said "I might have to take a rain check" and "I'm not sure this weekend will work" and "I'm still debating about coming out." She's never said ANY of that about the cruise. My fears are totally mine based on these other behaviors and her recent distance. Keep in mind, I know her parents, friends, family and they know many, many people who know me. The last thing I want happening is the word on the street being "did you hear what Don did, he asked our daughter to go on a cruise and she was so excited and then he found someone else (or spin it as found someone better) and dumped her." I've never been that kinda of guy and don't want to be. I'm betting this is the longest and most expensive trip anyone has ever taken her on. A few guys have flown her to a destination for a few days for new years, birthdays, etc. but it's a couple days at a hotel and fly back home - not a 10 day vacation. So I gave my word and my word is HUGE in my life. If I say I'm going to do something or be somewhere, I do it. And what would my excuse or reason be at this point - "she's been distant, I've not seen her for a month, she didn't respond to a text I sent" I mean, that's really the truth and it would make me look bad.

See, THIS ^^^^^^^^^^ is what a lack of communication brings to the table! It causes guessing and your mind running away with you.

Gonna throw something in here about the law of attraction...

Okay, I guess I don't get it. Or, okay please throw it in. Were you going to make more comments or was this your comment? Please explain as I'm not getting it.

Joseph9, you're a special case. I'm going to provide a separate response for you. LOL