Harvey, there's a couple things that stood out to me.
You said social media is the only way for your wife to see your changes? What? Social media is where you put your best, fakest foot forward. That doesn't mean squat to her.
And why aren't you living with her? I know you are in a move when BD happened. But if it is that important, move back. You do have a choice there.
H 34 W 29 BD 3/12/18 Divorce Busted Spring 19
It is not things that bother us, but the stories we tell ourselves about things.