No. If ANYTHING you do related to DB is for her, it will backfire. You are moving back in because YOU are the one who hopes to save the M and the marital home. You are a decisive leader who stands up for what is right. If not for you, then for your children. You are a man of integrity and honor who shows his children the way to face adversity with strength.
She wants to leave? Fine. Open the cage door and set her free. But you CANNOT "nice" her back. Drop your expectations. The way to look at it now is to identify what would make things worse, and then avoid doing that.
Burned is wise.
The way to also look at it now is to identify what IS THE RIGHT THING TO DO, and then do that. Do not worry about her reactions. You are strong and can handle it.
Lead your family through this.
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
