We slept together over two different two day periods and had sex like 8-10 times. Now we’re supposed to be friends. I mentioned how sexual W was last week and that I liked that side of her. And that I’m very sexual. MC said masturbating for a while Wont kill you. Kinda funny. Kinda wish we could do this and still Ben intimate.
That's about the [censored] $h!+ I've heard in a while. Who said it would kill you? You made a very valid point that your W was just "more than friends" and the whole "take it slow" thing gets thrown out the window when it's convenient for her. She should be accommodating you as much (or close to as much) as you accommodate her. But she doesn't so you feel like this is BS. And you should.
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W said us being married and together
So why don't her actions match up to this? Put your money where your mouth is sister!
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She admitted she had been lying to me the whole separation
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I guess I’ll give her the benefit of the doubt for now
She's lying, but you'll trust her? It probably sounds a little different now, but that's ok. I say things out loud to someone, and then I'm like "OK, WTH did I just say?". We all do it.
I think you GAL, and keep it real with your W and MC. Don't let them skate on BS like I pointed out. Don't be afraid to be honest. You don't have to mention every little thing that comes to mind, but kill the NGS. Keep working on it! Getting rid of NGS is a process for you and me both!
H 34 W 29 BD 3/12/18 Divorce Busted Spring 19
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