I probably differ from everyone else. I think its on your W to want to fix R with D, and to also be willing to face the reality of what shes done. Maybe this is because i have somewhay of a similar sitch in regard to my WW and our son. My WW has done everything she can to hide it from our S so our sitch is a little different in that regard. He still doesnt know, hes been lied to fo almost 2 years.

I domt think its going to change what your ww is doing, but its her cross to carry in the end. Your job is to be there for your D14, to make sure your her rock, and to not undermine their R. I think the more i tried to tell my S how much his mom loved him when he talked about being hurt in all that shes done, that i think it caused him to feel like i supported her and not him.


Together:20 years
M:3 years
Me:40
WW:40
S15
A suspected:5/17
AC:5/18
BD:8/18
WW in full blown R w/ OM
Still under same roof