Still Lost pt3

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I responded to #1 so she accomplished her mission. Actually her response to me saying "that's pretty awesome" which I thought was semi validating...she came back with "im good at what I do". This is the same person that complains she hates her job yet says how her team is her family and they stick together and she would do anything for them....yet she claims that she can't wait for a work at home job? This is from the Narcissist that needs yes people around her all the time.

#2 that didn't work because I didn't beg or respond to that statement

#3 didn't work either, wasn't concerned about pursuing for a response

Later she engaged in comments about the company she was looking at, why I don't know.

Question for any onlookers because like Steve mentioned (her being a little scrambled) I don't know how to deal with someone with a mental issue like this.

Back in May her issues were:
- sexually abused as a teen
- NC with parents across country after big fight
- became self aware of history of being in abusive relationships, she was always the victim
- our sitch (which she said was 1% of her concern due to other issues)

June/July issues were:
- more focused on our sitch after I filed and quasi R/cake eating through early Aug until I moved out of MBR
- building debt issue that she had including wrecking car and needing money to pay deduct and past due payments to get back on road

August issues were:
- very focused on depression and anxiety of very large credit card debt, car payment, heath issues being discovered, low hormonal due to menopause, etc

Sept/Oct issues are:
- money issues - lack of managing money I should say on her end
- centered around health issue and upcoming surgery at EOY
- continued work stress

One statement and then another question.

I bailed WW out late Sept because car was going to be repo'ed and money came from IRA withdrawal so it could be tracked to her in event of D. I figure it's half hers by law anyway. As well as about 90% of her CC debt. This was something that I had recommended mid summer and she was totally against and later asked if it was something we should do. My response and agreement was two-fold, first alleviate the anxiety over the debt because it really was causing her to lash out daily at me which I rarely responded and was tired of. She has ceased the anger since debt has been resolved a bit. Second to give her a reasonable opportunity to get herself in order mentally, she was an out of control mess not just with me but F and very unhealthy for all of the summer.

My question is I will not offer any additional monetary support at this time because she has been given a reset.
Many have told me I was a fool to help her with the money sitch (I know NGS), but I was really seeing her ready to crash and burn which would have included losing her job. Would this have been good at this juncture, did I miss the opportunity to let her hit bottom?

Payment of surgery is being made through a fraudulent homeowners claim that she made to get the funds....I told you she is nuts. However she has scheduled a cosmetic surgery EOY and has asked me to kind of be her support as she will probably be bed ridden for 7-10 days at home. She has an option to get a nurse to come in. What should I do?