by going dark and not pursuing her, it is opening the birdcage Do you need to reach in and throw the bird in the air to "set it free"?
Good analogy. I'm picking up what you're putting down.
Originally Posted by Amoafwl
Eventually though, YOU may decide that you arent interested in continuing to be legally tied to her and cut that rope...But for now, what difference does it make? Let her act as she wants. It isnt your job to do this for her.
Got it. I think a lot of this is fear, "When will she, how will it hurt me," etc. At this point I'm not completely averse to the idea of reconciliation, and I'm not really losing anything financially by staying with the current arrangement.
Another thing that plays a role is pride, like, "I shouldn't be letting her get away with this, I'll cut her off and that will show her!" Gotta be careful about that.
H: 35 W: 33 M: 11 T: 13
4/10/18: I discovered A and confronted ("BD1") 6/23/18: I moved out 8/31/18: MC ends ("BD2")
