A new mindset for Burned. This is thread 7.

[burned]

I like the flippant comments, they reach me for some reason. But as you can see I'm obviously still struggling with serious NGS.

Seriously...at this point, what is your purpose in divorce?

Appeasement. Setting her free the way she wants to be set free.

I couldnt help but chuckle at your "not gonna mind read" comment considering what followed.

Busted again. I was even thinking that as I wrote it and...yeah.

You aren't standing in her way by doing nothing.

OK, I thought about this and it makes sense. If she wants this to happen and she wants it to happen her way, she needs to be explicit and say something like, "Hey, we need to meet and put an agreement together and file. I'm available at such and such dates." Something like that. That's if she wants to keep living in fantasy land where somehow this is "mutual."

I know this sounds flippant, but it's a serious question.
What do you mean by "worsen" the sitch? And also.....how are you not cooperating? By not running over and fixing the thermostat??

Either I don't communicate well or, more likely, I can't get my head straight. There's not much I can do to worsen the sitch. It's still NGS or something along those lines. I'm periodically revisiting some of the stuff from earlier this month about being firm and self-respectful. Scrw the thermostats.

Sigh. On the positive side, made the bed today, and detachment has been making it easier and easier to focus on what needs to be done at work. So I'm rebuilding there.