Force Majeure won't help him, but of course he will argue that his income is less due to the amount of tax he has to pay. I will of course counter with the fact that I have been trying to get this matter resolved for 2.5 years while he has been stalling and that it is not fair to penalize me for a consequence that he could have and should have avoided. Nevertheless, the court will do what they do. I'd rather not pay the tax because it will substantially raise the tax rate on my earnings as well. There is no set formula here for anything. Just shocking that he doesn't want to tie this up and guarantee a result (and I reminded him of the tax change at tax time).
It is true, he does not deal with things. He assumes that if he waits long enough they will eventually resolve or he waits until someone forces him to act. The main characteristic I have observed with him over the years, and true also before his crisis, which I believe is undeniable, that he is a passive aggressive. If, as I suspect, the OW2 pushed the divorce filing (as I was doing the same at my end) then he is doubtless stalling to get back at her, and hey, if it makes me mad it is a twofer.
I don't think he wants anything from me except kibbles and sitting on the shelf long-term as Plan B. He too would love nothing more than for me to tell him I would do anything to have him back (I never have and never will). He has always sought very negative supply from me. I am giving only silence and grey rock these days. My daughter has had him blocked for months, so her life doesn't change by this and my son does not seem to care.
I think your ExW is in that funk we hear about. They think the divorce is going to make everything better, only it doesn't. She is still being treated like the mistress over the store and taking whatever she can get. I think the weight gain is a good indication that she is not happy. This is what I take by his continuing presence on the dating sites. If it was all that, he wouldn't need that boost anymore. I think when they turn again their core beliefs to rationalize what they do, it is very hard to come out the other side.
