Gordie, the stalking is not that concerning to me right now. I think he just wants to feel some sort of connection and know that we are here.

He has done three more subtle things that seem to be anchor checks, but perhaps I am reading into it.

He has now gone a full week without contacting the kids. The only only other time he has done that in the last year was when I was pretty sure he was out of town. This time crosses over into his work week, so I think he is just pulling back because the kids aren't responding. I think it is best for my son that he does not text. My son wants an in-person relationship with his father who makes him a priority. He has made it very clear that he doesn't want a text relationship that lets his dad tell people they talk regularly without making any effort. It is likely he is trying to get my son or myself to inquire about why he has stopped. Not going to happen.

He has still never responded to the insurance company. They contacted me urgently and I sent him a very short, uncharged email telling him they needed to speak with him. It has been several days and I can tell from the online status that he has not done anything. I am concerned it can affect my policy, but there is really nothing I can do. I don't know anything about the accident. There is an injunction in place that prevents us from interfering with each other's insurance, so I do not want to communicate with the insurance company in case they might take some action based on what I say.

I also received a match to my fake OLD profile for a new dating profile for him. Guess life with the new woman and her kids isn't all that. I have no idea why he doesn't block my fake profile so I don't get these things. I know he knows it is mine. I think he thought I would contact him about it, as I did in the beginning.

I've still not heard or seen anything on the divorce. I really thought the tax change would be motivating to him because it will likely cost him $60k or more in taxes he can't push off onto me. Why would he let the end of the year go by without making any effort to save this money? According to my lawyer, if he doesn't do something very soon he will run out of time.

I also don't understand why he would stop the minimal effort he was making with our son while the divorce is pending. He has to know that they are going to enter a parenting plan and in the past he at least seemed concerned what people would think if he had no custody or visitation.

Hard to say whether the sum of these things is someone who has just stopped making any effort, someone who is circling the drain, or perhaps is just upping his passive-aggressive mechanisms to force contact. I don't get it.